Friday, 29 April 2016

Is it ever good to hold a grudge?.......Karma is a bitch! with Quiz!

Hey All,
After the last few weeks it got me thinking about grudges and how letting go makes you feel so much better than planning revenge and making life just so much more difficult for yourself. Holding onto a grudge not only means your not letting go of the problem thus not letting go of the emotion and still keeping hold of the anger!!! The list could go on but you certainly wont feel any better.

Something happening in your life which could mean that you would need to hold a grudge is not always an easy situation to be in. As a person I have been brought up to see the best in people and to make sure that everyone has a fair chance regardless of who they are. But when someone really crosses your bows what are you supposed to do? Let it go and be bigger person or go back guns blazing? Me? I prefer to chose the first one especially now I have children maybe a few years ago I might have been that person who went absolutely crackers and mental in order to make sure that the person, people or thing that had hurt me paid for sure!

Now with my babies (George and Baby Bump Arthur) that feeling has totally subsided. How I feel now is that everyone is who they are and if they've decided to be awful, calculating and hurtful to another human being and actually know they are doing it then that's sooooooooo their own choice and therefore must be able to accept the consequences of any wrong doing. I believe that good things happen to good people and bad things happen to those that decided to live their life as a though they are the only ones in it and take, hurt and disregard others.

I am a firm believer in Karma and feel that it will come round to bite those people that decide to ignore it (Haha like its magical....or is it?)
Me? .........I'm just going to wait for Karma to do what is needs to do and smile.

    Karma (Sanskrit: कर्म; IPA: [ˈkərmə] ( listen); Pali: kamma) means action, work or deed; it also refers to the spiritual principle of cause and effect where intent and actions of an individual (cause) influence the future of that individual (effect).
Are you a believer in karma? Have you got any mad stories that put Karma to the test? Try this quiz to see what kind of Karma do you have?

Peace Out
Yorkshire Pud xxx

Tuesday, 19 April 2016

My Weeks 14-15 - 2016 - "Forget your troubles, come on get happy!!!" plus....5 Ways to a positive daily life

Hi All,

So weeks 14 and 15 have passed so quickly and a lot quicker than I thought!) and they are right what they say about time being a healer! For those of you that follow YP's Diary you'll get where I'm coming from. At first I cried then I got confused then cried and I got angry and then negative and the only way from that is to look at everything positively although I am still slightly confused but don't think that will go away just yet but definitely working on it as there is no point dwelling.
I love being positive in fact I'd say I've lost so much of my sparkle and outlook over this last year that I found it hard at first to feel any kind of positive at all and then being diagnosed with Prenatal Depression on top didn't help but it's all ok and I'm getting stronger. We all generally want to be happy....What's wrong with that? And maybe sometimes you have to go through sad and bad times to find you're true happiness and to be fair I'm sick of writing how sad and poorly we all are rather than the fun stuff! Life is way too short to be unhappy for long.

So where are we with positive notes this past 2 weeks....

* Top of the list - My beautiful little boy George who has Rubenstien Taybi Syndrome managed to climb a full set of stairs aged 2 years 5 months and this is a massive accomplishment for us and a very  positive one at that...Well done baby boy check it out on my Youtube.

* Mama YP, George and Arthur the bump are at Mum and Step Dad's house in a cosy room it's ok but really need to get on with finding our own pad (Watch this space got a few irons in the fire)

* I only have 2 weeks of work left before my maternity starts!! Got to get some buns for the last day (Or shall I make some? haha)

* 6 weeks to go before the arrival of Arthur and baby bag is packed and ready to rock and roll just need to do mine.....comfy pants and bras etc.....

* I'm eating again!.....By that I mean eating more after every break up your eating can change and luckily I'm back on the grub already! One because it's not just about me and 2 I'm generally hungry.

* I have managed to get more steps in daily which has made me shattered but I feel loads better for it.

Yorkshire Pud xx
34 Weeks Pregnant

I found these amazing 5 steps to happiness here on the tinterweb and I think it's a great way to look at stuff (Follow the link for more info) And I definitely will be from now on.

5 Steps to a Happy Life with Positive Attitude
Step 1: Believe Happiness is a Choice
I can choose to be happy?
Sure, this isn’t always easy, but it is always, always an option. Teaching myself to see that happiness is a choice has been one of the greatest things I’ve ever done for myself.
Now when I find myself in a bad situation, I know that it’s up to me to find the good, to be happy regardless of what’s happening around me. I am no longer pointing fingers, placing blame. I realise that everything happens how it happens and it’s up to me to choose how I want to feel about it. I am in control of my happiness level and no one can take that away from me.

Step 2: Rid Your Life of Negativity
If you want to live a positive, joyful and happy life, you cannot –- absolutely CANNOT -– be surrounded by negative people who are not encouraging your happiness. When I was a pretty negative person, I tended to attract other negative people.
When I decided to make the change to live a more positive life, I had to rid my life of all of the negative people in it. This, as you can imagine, wasn’t easy. Getting rid of people hurts -– even when you know they aren’t good for you or your current lifestyle.
Not only did I have to get rid of the negative people, but I also had to get rid of the negative things too. I had to stop doing certain things that were causing negativity in my life. I had to take a step back and examine which behaviours were good for me and which were not.
I learnt to focus on the positive things I was doing and let go of the negative ones. This process was not easy and to be honest, is still ongoing, but I know this: having negativity in your life prevents you from living a truly positive existence.

Step 3: Look For the Positive in Life
There is the positive aspect in everything. In every person, in every situation, there is something good. Most of the time it’s not all that obvious. We have to look. And sometimes we have to look hard.
The old me just sat back and allowed things to happen by default. If I saw negative, I went with that feeling. I didn’t want to look harder or think too much about the good. I found it much, much easier to sit back and just accept what I saw (which was usually the bad).
Now, when I’m faced with a difficult or challenging situation, I think to myself, “What is good about this?” No matter how terrible the situation might seem, I always can find something good if I take the time to think about it.
Everything –- good and bad -– is a learning experience. So, at the very least, you can learn from bad experiences. However, there’s usually even more to it than that. If you really take the time to look, you will usually find something good, something really positive, about every person or situation.

Step 4: Reinforce Positive in Yourself
Once I started thinking more positively and adapted to a more positive attitude, I realised I had to reinforce these thoughts and behaviours in myself so they would stick. As with any sort of training, practice makes perfect, and, yes, you can practice being positive.
The best and easiest way to do this is to be positive when it comes to who you are. Tell yourself you’re awesome. Tell yourself you look good. Tell yourself that you love and accept yourself completely. Tell yourself you did an awesome job at work or raising your kids or whatever it is you do.
Be honest with yourself, but do your best to look for the good. And, whatever you do, don’t focus on the negative. Nothing good can come of telling yourself that your butt’s too big or your latest career goal wasn’t met.
It’s okay to not like everything about yourself (yet), but don’t spend energy dwelling on the negative. Remind yourself of the good in you. We all have positive attributes and it’s up to you to remind yourself of them every day.

Step 5: Share Happiness with Others
Not only do you need to be positive with yourself for this new positive attitude to really take effect, you also need to be positive with others. You have to share your wealth of positivity with the world.
The best way I’ve found to do this is quite simple and basic: be nice. Be nice to other people, no matter what. Tell someone he or she looks nice today. Tell someone they did a great job on that presentation. Tell your parents or children (or both!) how much you love them and how great they are.
When someone is feeling down, do what you can to cheer him or her up. Send flowers. Write notes. Don’t gossip. Be kind to all living things. All of these things sound basic enough, but, for someone like me, they didn’t used to come easily.
In the past, I didn’t wanted to see the good in myself and, therefore, didn’t want to see it in others either. I used to be critical and condescending. Now I strive to be encouraging and supportive. I try not only to treat others, as I would like to be treated, but also to consider how they would like to be treated.
People appreciate positivity and the more you are sharing it with others, the more you are practicing it and reinforcing it in your own life.

Parting Words on the Positive Attitude Habit
When you start feeling like the idea of being a positive person is daunting, tell yourself this: “If someone who really used to struggle with a negative attitude, turned her life around with these five steps, then I can too!”
If anyone had told me a few years ago that I would be writing an article about developing a positive attitude and living a happy life, I would have laughed right in their face. I would have said, “Why in the world would someone want me to write about positivity?”

But here I am, writing this post, believing in these words, and knowing that every single day I am getting closer and closer to living the happy life I’ve secretly dreamt of living. If I can do it, you can do it. Believe in yourself and remember the most important lesson of all… a positive outlook is a choice. Choose to be positive. Choose to be happy. Life is short.

Friday, 15 April 2016

Single, 33 weeks Pregnant and a Boy of 2! - What do I do? Hints and Tips from Bounty

Hey All,
After reading my last post on the break-up of Mr& Mrs Pud then you will possibly understand that our world has turned upside down. As anyone who has no idea what to do in this kind of situation you turn to the internet for help (Not in the form of Tom Hardy quite yet! Haha) but what I did find is this list of tips about becoming a single parent on the Bounty UK website. What I thought might be a good booster is to see how I answer these now and in several weeks time…….

Top tips for coming out on top
As a single mum, taking complete responsibility can be a big challenge - from finding enough money and juggling work and childcare, to coping with emotional upheaval and the need to keep going for everyone’s sakes. Here are top tips for coming out smiling...

#1 - Take care of yourself
Work, homework, cooking dinner, packed lunches, washing, family admin – the list goes on and on. And when you’re doing it on your own, it can be pretty exhausting. So what you really need is ‘me time’.  Look after yourself and it will be much easier to look after your children. Set aside some time for you every week, eat properly and get as much sleep as you can.
Yorkshire Pud – Hahahahahahahaha!!! Not eating properly at all but that’s down to a relationship breakdown and being pregnant I really need to so started eating fruit as it’s the only thing I can keep down.

#2 - Rock solid friendships
There are 1.9 million single parents in Britain, so there are plenty of people in the same boat. Seeking out single parents could introduce you to a big new group of supportive friends – look out for a local group or find single parents like you in the Bounty community. 
Yorkshire Pud – Will be looking into this in the future but as far as my group of friends go I couldn’t have more support.

#3 - Get out there! 
Lovely though children are, you need adult conversation and a break from ordinary home life. So why not invite friends round, join a club, do exercise or hit the town? 
Yorkshire Pud – Ha not able to do much of this as yet as 33 weeks pregnant! But my friends are giving me great support.

#4 - Embrace help 
If you’re offered help, grab it with both hands! Support from family and friends is important and can help you get back on track more quickly. A couple of hours childcare goes a long way – whether it’s freeing you up to get jobs done, or giving you space for a massage, exercise or even a date. 
Yorkshire Pud – This is one I struggle with. I find it hard to pass George onto people as I feel it’s my job to look after him. However at the minute all the help I could get would be fantastic! I need to embrace help more which I imagine will come further on.

#5 - Enjoy the benefits!
As you adjust to single parenting – doing things your way, hogging the remote and enjoying a more peaceful family atmosphere, you may start discovering some upsides to your new situation.
Yorkshire Pud – Again I’m back at my mums and in one room so I think this will come as I find a place and start a fresh with my little ones.

#6 - Do it your way!
Taking responsibility means taking control and doing what is best for yourself and your children. It means you can set your own rules and work out what suits you best in the new set-up. And you can take command of the TV remote - whoop!
Yorkshire Pud – This will definitely be the start of a new me and new life.

#7 - New-found strength
You may find strengths you didn’t know you had, which will both help you face a different future, and lead you onto new, and more positive paths.
Your amazing children! 
It’s natural to worry about how your children will react, but they may surprise you with their resilience and will quickly become used to it being just you at home. 
Yorkshire Pud – My main focus is on getting a solid place for my son George to settle with him having a disability he’s very much in a routine and a true home bird. But as far a strength goes I’m a tough one and need to man up and move on.

#8 - Closer bond
You may develop an even closer bond with your children, particularly if you have a different view to your ex on what parenting means and you can finally express it.
Yorkshire Pud – Me and my ex partner had quite the same values but we will see.

#9 - And breathe out...
If family life has felt angry and tense, your home may well become a more fun place to live for everybody.
Yorkshire Pud – Definitely the house was very tense and just being away even though a huge piece has gone from my life I feel loads calmer.

#10 - Support 
Gingerbread is a national charity that provides expert advice and practical support for single parents. Check out the website, free helpline and members’ forums, including great discounts and special offers. 

Yorkshire Pud – Joined!

Monday, 11 April 2016

Hats! Glorious Hats!! Which suits your face shape? How do the celebs do it? - Revisited!

Revisiting this lovely post this week. By far this has been one of my most popular posts and it seems to have helped quite a few people out :) Which is always a bonus.

It's not very often I say that something looks good on me but I can always wear a hat and get away with it looking ok. What's your go to accessory? 

Hey Lovelies,

My snow week in hats!
Well it’s been the first time this winter that the old hat box has had to come out. The ears have totally felt the cold this past week. I find hats one of those items of clothing/accessories that’s suit some and not others – So what face shape suits a hat? And which hat suits me?

Some of my little hats I love and some are more of a necessity rather than a fashion statement. Take my little red one! Although someone described it as a 90’s throwback piece and that it should never see the light of day again!! Which I thought was a bit rude however it’s the comfiest hat I own! It covers the tabs and it has a little peak so I can still see in front on me. Not actually sure what face shape I am possibly oval or oblong (Not sure I like the word oblong, but if it works for Angelina Jolie I’m up for it!) But I’m hoping that my little hats at least suit me and if they don’t then they serve a great purpose – Keeping me warm!

My hats are from –

Red Hat – H&M
Pink Bobble Hat – Primark
Grey wool hat – Topshop
Black wool hat – Marks and Spencer

Looking around on the Internet I found this great website which gives you some idea on face shape v hats style.....I also had a look at some celebs who have definitely chosen the right hat!

Beauty Riot

Square Face

Chicks with square faces need hats that soften their rigid angles. Floppy, curvy hats accomplish this task, giving them a feminine and flirty touch. Hats with large and upturned brims also look oh so cute on square-faced honeys. If you want to elongate your face, go with hats that sit high on your forehead, like berets and bowler hats.
Jessica Simpson looking mint!! In the perfect hat for her face shape?

Oval Face

Just as with sunglasses and earrings, gals with oval faces can rock just about any style of hat and still look good. Therefore, go with whatever suits your mood -- fedoras, cloches, newsboys -- anything. But also pull the hat over your forehead and tilt it to the side, to give yourself some stylish swagger.
Natalie Portman rocking the new rage of hats...the fedora!! Go and get oneif you've not already.

Round Face

Round faces are cute, but they often look short and full. To offset these characteristics, go with hats that are tall and shallow, which will give your face length. You could also try slanted or peaked crowns to draw out your face. Slant your hat forward to give your face more angles. Additionally, look for hats that feature brims that are wider than your face, to make it look narrower.

Christina Ricci looking stunning in a black vest and tilted hat!!....perfect xx

Oblong/rectangular Face

Got a long face? Avoid tall hats like a stage-five clinger -- they only make your face look longer. Go with hats that are flared and have wide brims. Push the hat down on your forehead to cover it up a bit, which makes your face look shorter.

Possibly the most stunning woman on the planet - Angelina Jolie who would honestly look amazing in a black big bag!! Totally wearing this old school beauty.

Heart-Shaped Face

Ladies with heart-shaped faces have wide foreheads and narrow chins. Because of this contrast, you should avoid wearing wide hats, which accentuate your forehead. Otherwise, you'll look good in just about any type of hat.

The most famous heart shaped person who springs to mind can even make a small beanie hat look chic.....go Reece Witherspoon!!

So what do you think? Does face shape make a big difference or is it the hat, hair or other?
Think I'm going to stick to what I feel comfy in and what I think suits me!

Would love your opinions lovely readers :) xx

Tatta for now peeps and thanks for reading xx

(All celeb photos taken from google images - thank you)

Weeks 12-13 - 2016 - Mrs Pud and Mr Pud are Game Over :(

So yeah I've been quiet these past couple of week this is because my relationship with that I thought was the 'Wonderful Mr Pud' turns out not to be so true. Not going into details but things I have found out and the sheer lack of concern for the fact I am now 33 weeks pregnant and looking after our disabled son have completely dumbfounded me.
The man I knew for 4 and a half years has gone and all that is left is man who I don't know anymore?? Mr Pud was the man who I spoke to about everything! My feelings, my jokes, my worries and now I don't know who he is at all. I have essentially lost my best friend.
All I can say is that he was the love of my life and yeah things were tough but I always knew I could count on him for anything and now I am looking after our little man George, carrying our baby and all living in one room at my mums. No money, due to finish work and go on maternity in the next couple of weeks. Surely this must be a happy time for most but for us it's the cold reality of what life can really be like.
I'm now at a point where I need to be strong for our boys and make sure they are clothed, fed and watered and brought up in the most loving, fun and awesome household ever! Even if it is just mum.
Not thinking about it yet but I'm sure my real Prince will turn up and make sure that we are ok and really show us that life is for living and being happy.
Now the true reality of being a single parent will kick in and I must rise to the challenge......Any help would be great?

Peace out xxx
33 weeks Preggerz

Monday, 21 March 2016

Week 11 - 2016 - Cake International! eBay and Is baby Arthur really a girl?

Well a very quiet start to this week but a bumper of an end! With Maternity and Arthur looming closer I feel it’s time to get my arse into gear and get my eBay shop stocked up as I won’t be able to once new little man arrives? Will get onto that further on.

The first thing I would like to address is the fact that I’ve been worrying about whether or not Arthur is really a girl? Has anyone else out there had a wrong sexing ultrasound scan? We had a 16 weeks (Private) and 20 weeks scan (NHS) and both told us it was a boy. So I am actually convinced it’s a boy. Not really bought much boy stuff as we still have all of George’s stuff raring to go! But got a few nice little pieces from the baby shower that were quite neutral.
I don’t have any evidence what so ever that he could be a girl and not that I would prefer a girl (As long as they are healthy) but there’s just something that doesn't feel right. When I first found out we were pregnant and up to the 16 week scan near enough everyone said or felt that we were having a girl as they said I was carrying different/I was different etc.....I was convinced I was having a boy but towards our first scan people had got me convinced that there was a chance it could be a girl. Also can you remember my old post on Old Wives Tales and Gender Prediction? They basically were unanimous in the fact we were having a girl. My best friend Gareth keeps having dreams about a girl popping out! I keep having dreams about a girl popping out! My mum keeps saying I still think it’s a girl! I feel completely different during this pregnancy I’m carrying so high which I feel is prolonging the morning sickness (Yep still having a bit of it at 30 weeks) that it’s a girl! I’m hesitant about decorating the nursery as I feel it might be a bloody GIRL!!!!.....Help has anyone been though or know someone that’s had this?

So the week has been quite quiet but what a nice finish to it by attending the Cake International, Hobbycraft, Sewing and Fashion exhibition at the NEC in Birmingham. 
The Gang!
I went with my 2nd family which was excellent! Gareth (Best Friend) and his Mum and Dad (Mr & Mrs C) who are like my parents and George’s Grandparents we are that close. Mr C is a keen baker and cake decorator so he was in his element me and Gareth not so much however we were looking forward to maybe some sample cake testing however there wasn’t much of this happening (Bitterly disappointedL)
It got very tiring carrying the 30 week bump round towards the end!

In the exhibitions defence to the lack of sugary treats to try there were some absolutely awesome cakes to look at!......
Great British Bake Off  Starwars Cake!

Labyrinth Cake

Batman and Superman.... yes actual cakes!

Peter Pan Cake

Circus Cake
Any opportunity to get involved and to also steal a red clown nose!
I thought I would have been bowled over by the Hobbycrafts section and there were some good stalls but I felt I was drowning in Card Making Paraphernalia…Help! The sewing and fashion section was good with some beautiful fabrics to look at and some amazing dresses for me to dream about until the bump goes back down. All in all a very good day with great company but would have preferred more samples haha J

So stocking up the shop……I’ve started doing some lovely keyrings/keepsakes as I feel not everyone wants a Moomin around their neck but could like a Moomin on their keys? Haha here are a few of the other bits and bobs I’ve been listing this week that are available in the SHOP now J 
Craft and Lifestyle Themed Keyrings/Bag Charms/Keepsakes - Sewing, Tea, Baking & Vintage

Glitter Bottle Keyrings/Bagcharms/Keepsakes - Ariel, Tinkerbell, Elsa & Shera

Hope you've had a lovely week! What have you been upto?

Yorkshire Pud xx

30 Weeks Pregnant

Wednesday, 16 March 2016

Quiz - Are you depressed?

Hey All,
As you know I've been quite vocal recently with my Prenatal Depression and the amount of responses I've had is phenomenal and I would like to thank everyone for your support. I do know that there are many people out there who are unsure of their feelings and what's right and what's wrong etc so thought I would pop a little quiz on here for those of you who are unsure. Obviously this is just for pointers and isn't a professional opinion but it might help someone make that call to the docs that they have been putting off.

Yorkshire Pud xxx

Tuesday, 15 March 2016

What is Fight or Flight? How can we deal with it?...with Quiz!

Hey lovelies,
So in my last post I spoke about Fight or Flight and how when things got tough with me and Mr Pud I decided to chose the option of Flight and move to my mum and step dads house for a few days to calm down. I’ve heard the term loads but never really looked into it before or what it actually means properly so I’ve done a bit of swatting on Google (So all this is pieced together of what I feel is understandable for one and close to home for two) and also I felt I should actually try and find out what we can do to overcome it as it can really mess with generally everything!!
What is fight or flight response?

This is the body’s response to perceived threat or danger. During this reaction, certain hormones like adrenalin and cortisol are released, speeding the heart rate, slowing digestion, shunting blood flow to major muscle groups, and changing various other autonomic nervous functions, giving the body a burst of energy and strength. Originally named for its ability to enable us to physically fight or run away when faced with danger, it’s now activated in situations where neither response is appropriate, like in traffic or during a stressful day at work. When the perceived threat is gone, systems are designed to return to normal function via the relaxation response, but in our times of chronic stress, this often doesn’t happen enough, causing damage to the body. After the threat is gone, it takes between 20 to 60 minutes for the body to return to its pre-arousal levels.
When you are in a stressful or dangerous situation and experience fear and anxiety, your body goes through a number of changes:
·         Your heart rate may increase.
·         Your vision may narrow (sometimes called ‘tunnel vision’).
·         You may notice that your muscles become tense.
·         You may begin to sweat.
·         Your hearing may become more sensitive.
What do you feel in your body when you feel anxious? Usually, you may notice a rapid heartbeat, shallow, rapid breathing and tense muscles. These physical reactions are the result of the ‘fight or flight’ response system. The person's body is getting ready to do one of two things:
·         Confront the threat and deal with it, or – FIGHT!
·         Get as far away from the threat as quickly as possible – FLIGHT!
This fight or flight response is appropriate and can actually be life-saving when there is an actual and imminent physical threat. For example, when the driver in front of you suddenly slams on the brakes, you need to react quickly (and without a lot of thought) in order to prevent an accident.
However, some people have an early warning system that's a little too sensitive. For these people, the fight or flight responses are triggered by events that would be ignored by many others. This could be caused by a number of things…
·         An inherited imbalance in brain hormones, as in anxiety and bipolar disorders
·         A history of verbal or physical abuse in childhood
·         Other post-traumatic stress disorders

How can we deal with the Fight or Flight response?

So what can we do? How do we discharge all that energy when we realise there really is no danger? After all, the fight or flight reaction is an involuntary physical response to a situation. It might not be possible to issue a mental note to our adrenal glands to tell them to stop producing adrenalin.


·         Find a place where it's quiet.
·         Sit in a straight back chair with both feet on the floor or lie on the floor with a straight spine.
·         Begin inhaling by expanding the abdomen (let it inflate like a balloon), then move the breath into your rib cage and, finally, all the way into your upper chest.
·         Exhale by reversing this action; begin at your collarbones and exhale down through your rib cage and into your abdomen. Contract your abdominal muscles as you finish exhaling.
·         You might find it helpful to lightly place your right hand on your abdomen and your left hand on your rib cage to help direct the breath on its journey.
·         Begin by practicing for one minute and then gradually lengthen the practice to five minutes.

2. DO Something Physical that has results!

Like cleaning your room. Running down to the shop on an errand. Try yoga, stretching, or other exercises. Letting your body do something that uses the "fight or flight" adrenaline energy.

3. Look at your Diet

Dietary choices can provoke and increase a sense of anxiety and worry if you're lacking in healthy nutrients, have blood sugar swings, and you're fuelling up on unhealthy foods most of the time. Caffeine and sugar are culprits in fuelling your flight or fight responses.

4. Have a relaxing Bath or Shower

Immerse yourself in hot water to relax muscular tension as soon as possible, even if this means doing it the moment you step back through the door into your home.

5. Avoid the fear generators

People who push your buttons and put you into fight and flight mode regularly should be avoided until you learn stronger coping mechanisms. For some people, this may mean avoiding them long-term. All the same, it may be unrealistic to avoid all fear generators, especially if they're your boss or a family member, so practice very non-committal responses when these people begin to create fear situations and quickly and politely remove yourself from their sphere of influence. Don't explain yourself, just simply make excuses to get going.

6. Use the 4 A’s

The four A’s are Avoid, Alter, Adapt, Accept. Different stressors require different responses. Using these techniques, depending on the situation, can really help you fight your fear response.
·         For example, if traffic increases your fear levels because you're worried about time, accidents, and noise, you can choose to Alter or Avoid this source of stress. Find an alternate route to drive to work that decreases your chances of being involved in traffic jams. Read How to cope with rush hour for more details. Or, see if you can take public transportation or carpool to work instead, and avoid that stress altogether.
·         If conflict provokes your fear response, you can Alter how you handle it or Adapt to have different expectations. Learn to reduce conflict by managing it. Instead of avoiding it, find constructive ways to cope and to assert yourself around others. Always remember that you don't have to provide explanations for excusing yourself or for standing up for yourself. You do not have to tolerate abusive people or situations.
·         Some sources of stress you may just need to Accept. For example, you can’t control how other people react to stress. If a person in your workplace gets all flustered over missing a big deadline and spreads that stress around your office, you can try to soothe her, but you can’t control whether she changes her behaviour. You can look at this situation as an opportunity for you to grow as a person, instead.

So has this cleared up a few things for you because it definitely has for me! I am definitely going to try and do the pointers of helping with the fight or flight increased adrenaline.

Yorkshire Pud xx

 *Info taken from numerous Google sources mixed with my own thoughts and ideas on the subject.